Ever have someone be mean to you, and ruin your day because you just couldn’t get it out of your mind?
Give them a backstory.
How? Whenever someone is supposedly mean to me, I always give them a backstory. People aren’t bad, they are good. Circumstances, or rather how we react to them, is what makes us bad. Nobody wakes up in the morning thinking ‘Hmm, I wonder whose joy I can suck today?’ But life happens: say you’re stuck in a traffic jam for hours, reach the office super late and your boss is extremely mad at you for missing that 9 a.m. meeting. I cannot imagine you being a cheery person that day. Say you reached your hotel after a long flight, opened your bag and saw that your favorite shampoo/perfume bottle had exploded on all your clothes. That’s not a good day for anyone.
When you meet people who are having trouble being nice to others, give them an imaginary backstory that explains their behavior. So, instead of hating them for being mean to you, you’d just feel bad for them and maybe, wish them a better day tomorrow.
When someone is mean to you, even if they are generally a mean person, your reaction to that circumstance isn’t going to affect the meanie. Rather, it will affect you, fester in your mind, eat at you all day, and maybe longer. Don’t let circumstances weigh you down. It’s not them, it’s not you, it’s the situation. Give them a backstory and move on.
Happiness is just an attitude adjustment away. This world is so huge and full of so much wonder and intrigue. It is also riddled with crime, injustices, aggressiveness and a whole lot of trash (and actual trash too!). The way you choose to see things defines how you react to them. I choose to see the wonder. I choose happiness. Therefore, I am. You can be too.
“What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.” – T.S. Eliot